Helping our children to feel both grounded and independent is a fundamental tenet of parenting. So we give them roots and wings by imparting skills and values. We harp on them to buckle their seatbelts, eat their veggies, and treat others with respect. After we’ve counseled them on how to do their homework and manage money and relationships, we guide them toward a college or a career path. All with the expectation that when they reach adulthood, we can step away as they launch their independent lives. Except when they have special needs. Read more.